I do have an artistic/entrepreneurial idea that I would like to assess the feasibility of… I think your program would be beneficial to me.

I’m glad that you have taken your passion and run with it in order to help others.

You absolutely did the right thing separating from her. No one, after all, cares about what you need more than yourself. I once had a friend say (in light of my estrangement from both parents, separately but equally crazy) that I would regret not having a relationship with my parents, that in light of everything, they were still my parents. I took that in, sat with it quietly for a few minutes alone, and let the feelings and thoughts flow. I contemplated what I would feel if both of my parents were dead. When the word “safe” rose in my mind, I knew I was right to protect myself from both of them.

Good luck with your school and creativity. Congratulations on finding life after the interim death of soul from an abusive parent.

And as you focus on the gifts your mother gave you and release the anger and sadness through your grief, you will clear the way for good to come. May it be an opening, a flowering for you.

That’s not to say, don’t grieve. In fact, let yourself fully feel everything. Just remember to breath and allow it to pass through.

I’d also like to offer a different perspective on the weight issues. Perhaps, your mother expressed her love for you through the food she so passionately prepared and beautifully presented to you and your family. Perhaps, the way you learned to accept love was through eating. And so now, denying yourself food, feels like denying yourself love.

Perhaps, you can think of every mouthful of food as accessing the universe of unlimited love. And you don’t need to eat quantity to experience unlimited, unconditional and abundant love. In fact, eating healthy and in moderation is truly giving your body unlimited love.

Love,
Debra

Sending warm thoughts.

In sympathy, I thank you.

David

My deepest sympathy to you for the loss of your mother… and many thanks for allowing the disappointments in life to shape and fuel your ideals. It is refreshing to encounter, regularly in your writing, your willingness to put a spotlight on artistic obstacles in such an honest, non-shaming way. That you can identify dysfunction and still find the wealth of gifts your mother possessed, and shared with you, is inspiring. Blending your personal stories into your dynamic charisma make your invitations all the more appealing.

Peace,
Donna

My condolences. Such a complicated relationship; in many ways I identify. I’ve only known you for a short time but this elaboration of your background with your mother really gave me much more of a feel for who you are and, in some measure, what drives you. I appreciate that and I respect your solution. I look forward to our continuing work together and the evolution of our relationship as we pursue these things in which we share a value.

SIncerely,

David Moss